Whether providing care or finding assistance for another, the following tips will help keep everyone’s lives more balanced…
- It’s OK to push. – Many people will stubbornly
refuse to admit that assistance is needed in their lives. They
typically tend to defer any needs to family members. Be gentle but firm
when the topic of living assistance comes up, and don’t wait until
friends and family have been pushed to the point of “burn out”.
- Don’t take it personally. – Illness or loss of
independence can cause a personality change. Many times the affected
person will seem to be angry at everyone. Understand that the anger is
more likely due to the situation in general and is being redirected at
friends & family.
- It’s easy to over share information. – In today’s
online information exchanges, it’s easy to update others on the
condition of another family member. However, one should always be
mindful not to share too much information. And remember to focus on the
positives.
- Try not to overly isolate someone because of their condition.
– Whenever life changing situations come up, be it aging, disease, or
some other issue, accommodate the need but not overly so. For instance,
a Parkinson’s sufferer may require special circumstances at some point,
but work to keep them in the mainstream of their lives as much as
possible.
- Love goes through changes. – A parent suffering
dementia or Alzheimer’s may say or act hurtful towards you at some
point, which will likely affect your feelings towards them.
Understanding the true cause of the behavior can help you to deal with
these feelings.
- Share the work. – Whether caring for someone
personally, or overseeing the care being provided by another, approach
family members directly about the situation. Divide the expenses, time,
etc., amongst everyone.
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